What to do when you have so many changes you want to make but don’t know where to start
Do you have a plethora of things you want to bring into your life, many changes you want to make but feel overwhelmed with them all not knowing where to start?
Believe me, I know how it feels
To manifest my dreams in their entirety, I have sooo many changes I have to and want to make within my life.
But here is the thing, this is how my mind used to work.
When I recognised I needed to make changes I delved into researching them. I found myself recognising the more I researched a subject to learn how to make the changes, the more I realised I don’t actually know which made me want to deepen my knowledge on the subject before I even thought of making any changes….
Welcome to my mind, it can be quite intense.
My mind doesn’t spin around like that much anymore, but I am far from perfect.
I do sometimes get to the point where I feel yes, I am going to do that, and I realise that I just don’t know where to start, so I don’t. I come to a stand still…. Stagnant…. and I find myself feeling that anxiety rising.
I recently turned 40 and looking back over the past 10 years I recognised I have spent a lot of time procrastinating. Well, no that is a little harsh. I have spent a lot of time building my foundations both emotionally, spiritually and psychically, but yes, I have also done a hell of a lot of procrastination.
I recognise that I have spent a lot of time in the “I want to do this” space.
Don’t get me wrong, I have implemented a lot of things within my life that I have wanted to do, but upon reflection, I could have done more because my mindset sometimes jumps back into the spin I mentioned before.
But that’s ok.
I haven’t spent much time in the ‘I should have’ or ‘I could have’ space, I can now move to the ‘I can’ and ‘I will’ space within my mind quite quickly releasing the thought of ‘oh what’s the point I have so much to learn’, I just begin with baby steps if I am unsure or believe I am not knowledgeable enough on the subject, taking the learn as I go approach.
And what I mean by that is? Here are some examples.
I wanted to create a chemical free environment within my home by making my own cleaning products, personal products etc, but when I actually looked at everything I used within my home I felt overwhelmed at the thoughts of getting rid of it all and making everything myself.
So I started one by one replacing the products we used within the home.
I started with the washing powder, the moving onto other cleaning products, then started on personal products. That way I didn’t feel so overwhelmed, I just let the new habits create their space within my life.
I am not totally chemically free, but I continue to work towards that goal.
Another example which does tie in with the above is that I have dreams of living as self sufficient and environmentally sustainable as possible.
I recently attended a screening of a documentary on sustainability and as you can imagine that involves a lot of new skills that need to be learned and I was sitting within the theatre starting to feel a little overwhelmed again thinking omgoodness how am I going to do this. Again, the more I research the more I realise I don’t know about it.
But, many quotes from people within the documentary who are living sustainably were, just start. Do something, start small, and grow and learn from there.
At the moment I rent the home in which I live, so I cannot make major changes to the house, but I can work outside within the garden to create a beautiful environment, and that is what I am doing. Working on growing what I can for myself and also creating a space for wildlife to dwell.
I am finding growing my own food a little challenging. I am great with indoor plants, but tend to get ‘busy’ and forget to show my outdoor garden some loving, so I am still creating that habit within my life and I refuse to give up as I am learning along the way.
So my point to this post is, if you are feeling overwhelmed…. Don’t.
Yes, the changes you want to make within your life can be huge, but the hardest thing can be taking that first step and making that first little change in your habits.
It is remembering that you never fail (like is one of my plants die). It is an opportunity for learning, to know what you will do different next time.
Like the butterfly effect, that little step can ripple out to the universe to affirm YES! you want this, and then the universe will align and assist you.
Your next step will be easier, and then the next and the next.
And before you know it, you will see the changes you are making for the better.
My suggestion is to monitor your journey by keeping a journal. Write down how good it feels while you are working on implanting the changes, how beneficial they have become and how it is making you feel that your authenticity is shining that much brighter, how you are making a difference within your world.
I find that this helps, as the next time you are feeling overwhelmed, on the brink of giving up, you need only to read your journal so see how amazing you are and that little bit of light can help to give you that motivation to take that next step.
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