As the weeks inch away from Winter Solstice you may notice that the sun is staying out that little bit more each day, showing us it’s strength and resilience throughout the dark time of the year. This is notion is what I connect with at this time of the year.
Strength and Resilience
At winter solstice I work my magick on releasing what I no longer need within my life. This is usually releasing limiting thoughts and self sabotaging behaviours that creates blockages and stops me achieving what I want to achieve. I work my magick on leaving it behind within the darkness, letting it die off and decay. Allowing that decay to fertilise and nourishing what I want to bring my life.
When releasing the past I find it is very important to acknowledge what I have learned and give thanks for those lessons. Doing this can certainly be a hard task, but it is an important part of the process as I wouldn't be who I am today without those lessons.
So with my list written and acknowledgements given I burn the list within the solstice fire.
For a week or so after solstice I keep a note book close and write down what I want to attract into my life. It is nothing too detailed, just jotting down what I wish to achieve when the thought enters my mind. After that time, still between solstice and Imbolc, I allocate time to myself so I may focus on that list without distraction and begin to discover what it is I really want to achieve.
I let the increasing energy of the sun shine its light and energy on this and begin to make plans on how I will in fact achieve this.
We are now very close to Imbolc and although I do not have all my plans figured out I begin to take action. Both physically and magically so let me share this with you to inspire you to do the same.
At this time of year, I will plant my seeds to encourage growth.
What do I mean by planting my seeds?
I will visualise what it may look like when I have achieved my goals and begin to make plans on how I can work towards achieving them by creating an action plan.
This can be as simple as a daily, weekly or monthly to do list.
I must express the importance of when creating plans for change, please make sure that when you begin these actions and changes of habits are achievable steps. You do not want to sabotage yourself or your progress before you have even started.
These small actionable steps are 'seeds' that I am planting to grow my future.
I will begin making those little changes one by one, creating new habits.
Now, to correspond with that I will also be planting actual seeds to grow plants that I want within my garden.
When planted, these little seeds will wake from their slumber and begin to germinate beneath the soil. With love and nourishment they will grow in strength with their roots growing deep within the soil.
Here, I would like to point out that this magickal transformation of the seed beneath the soil is hidden from me. I do not actually see, I just know that it is happening and may not see any results of this transformation for weeks.
These seedlings are a psychical representation of the changes I am wanting to work within my life. I will move through and make the small actionable changes within my life to achieve what I want and within the first few weeks, I may not recognise anything manifesting from these changes.
Because it is all happening within myself, in the depths of my being, in my mind and also in the realm of my magick that is not always visible.
When you are making little changes within yourself and your life and when those changes become a habit, make another change.
After a few weeks or months of taking those actionable steps, you will begin to see results, however small they are just as the growth of the seed breaking through the top of the soil reaching towards the energy of the sun.
So as we move towards Imbolc I encourage you to connect with the energy, to work your magick and put plans into place to make those changes that you have wanted. Your magick will be enhanced at this time as we are moving in the flow of the waxing time of the year as the suns energy increases.
You may also want to choose seeds for plants that have energetic correspondences with the changes you wish to make.
If you are wanting to make changes to bring harmony and health into your life, you may wish to plant seeds for lavender or chamomile.
If you are wanting to take a leap and make create some long term goals, you may want to plant seeds for courage such as Yarrow, or Sage for wisdom when making decisions.
Or if you just wish to slow down and connect deeper with nature you could simply plant seeds for plants that call to you and that you could use within your life, ones that have beautiful flowers or aromas that you can sit and appreciate while watching the bees collect its pollen.
I encourage you to take some time, plant your seeds and attend to your magick.
We are in such difficult times at the moment with the lockdowns and restrictions due to the current pandemic.
Many of us are struggling with our mental health and how to cope through this lockdown, how to cope with the unrest within our community with people who agree with vaccination and those that do not agree fighting with each other all while we are worrying about what the world will look like when this is all over, however long that takes.
It is quite a weight on our minds.
We are all struggling in one way or another with limited ability to be able to do what we would usually do to help ourselves navigate through this time.
With the shops locked down we are unable to purchase supplies on the spare of the moment for creative projects or books to read. This all have to be purchased online and we wait the delivery which is also being held up.
We are unable to go and sit in a café watching the world go by.
Some of us are unable to even travel more than 5km's from our home.
So here are time magick and mundane things that you can do to create to help.
Soak in a beautiful cleansing bath
Run yourself a bath and create these bath salts.
Blend some two parts Epsom salts with one part bicarb soda
Mental and Physical Clearing
One cup of the Epson salt and bicarb salt mixture
One teaspoon of Lavender
One few drops of Frankincense Oil
One teaspoon of Sandalwood
One teaspoon of Jasmine
To aid in removing your mind of negative thoughts and feelings.
One cup of the Epson salt and bicarb salt mixture
1 drops of Frankincense
1 drops of Sandalwood
1 drops of Jasmine
1 teaspoon of Jasmine Flowers
1 drops of Neroli
1 drops of Ylang Ylang
1 drops of Ginger
1 drops of Rose
1 teaspoon of Rose Petals
Release your worries with fire
Get a pen and paper and sit in quiet place.
Have a candle ready and a heat proof container
Light your candle
Ground yourself and take a deep breath
Now write down on the piece of paper all the worries that are floating around in your mind.
Write down what is troubling you, your fears and your concerns.
Feel the energy of those thoughts moving into the words that are on the paper.
Now hold the paper to the flame and feel them leaving you are the paper ignites.
Place the burning paper within the heatproof bowl watching it turn to ash.
Now, on another piece of paper write down your hopes and dreams.
Write down how you can use this time in a positive manner.
What can you do to work towards your dreams, for example learning a craft, reading and investigating an interest you’ve had, delve into your ancestry, start growing your own herbs etc.
Almost like a to do list.
Hold onto this piece of paper and when you are feeling hopeless and worried about the future, look to the paper you have created and do something to work towards what you hace written.
Have a picnic in your backyard
My favourite café is down the road from my house and you can phone in an order and pick it up. Maybe your café is even offered on a delivery service.
Why not set up a picnic area in your backyard. This was me all set up waiting for my food to arrive.
Grab a picnic rug or blanket, some beautiful pillows, incense burning, your favourite book, a journal, your grimoire, some relaxing music or whatever else makes you feel relaxed.
Get your favourite takeaway lunch and spend some time soaking up the vitamin D and warmth from the sun. Let it fill you.
You could even set this up at a certain time with friends and they could create the picnic within their yards and you could video call together.
These are some simple things that you can do to bring about some magick and some kind of normality into your life.
I have made some of the Mental and Physical Healing bath salts for myself and I have some left over, I would love to gift some to two of you.
If you would like some, share this blog post on your social media and tag me.
I will contact the lucky two for your postal address to send some magick your way.
New Moon is the perfect time to begin to make changes within your life. It is the beginning of the new lunar cycle. A time of fresh starts, new opportunities and renewed energy.
We are experiencing such a trying time at the moment with the pandemic and many of us are are being forced to make changes in our life with the loss of jobs, lockdown etc.
Some of these changes are welcomed and some no so.
I lost my job a few months ago, and now studying full time and building my business. A forced change, a hard one financially but one I am thankful for. I continue to work through the phases of the moon to anchor my dreams and increase the energy of my magick.
You may also harness the strength of the moons phases to take some control and make the changes you would like to make within your life.
Here, I would like to remind you to keep in mind that when you are working magick, it may not manifest immediately. These things can certainly take time to manifest and it is also important to take action. There is really no use working your magick and and then just sitting back and wait for it to happen.
It you want it to manifest you have to put in the work. It is about the energy you put into your magick, the work you do within the mundane and of course I believe timing contributes as well.
So how can you work your magick this New Moon.
Firstly, find a space where you will not be interrupted, light a candle, burn some incense while grounding yourself to begin.
Sit and take a moment to think of the changes that you wish to make within your life whatever it may be. Whether it be creating a new business, becoming healthier in your body and mind to change your diet and exercise, creating new healthy routines etc.
Sink into a meditative state and focus on what you are wanting to bring into your life, visualising the steps you could take and the outcome. Take note of what it feels like when manifested. See yourself living as if you have already made the changes. Ask your ancestors to share some guidance with you on steps you may take to get there.
When you are ready, open your eyes and write down what you saw, the outcome, any ideas that popped into your mind, the steps you may have taken. Write the big picture and also note the feelings experienced.
Once you have written down what you have seen, create an action plan by breaking your vision down into smaller pieces, into steps that are needed to get to that stage.
You may need to repeat this stage with each step, as you need to get an action plan that has 'doable' steps. You want these steps to be easily woven into your daily life to avoid feeling overwhelmed.
This is important to be able to maintain the changes to works towards your dreams and to avoid things to feel overwhelming and unattainable.
a) My dream is to have a counselling office/shop showroom/ritual space/workshop area all rolled into one to run my business from. Now this would be a huge outlay to lease a commercial premises and I know that I cannot do that at this time, however I have created that within my home by being imaginative with room arrangements. And, to add to that we are in lockdown at the moment so one on one is impossible therefore I am taking my time to create the space so it is perfect. I am currently waiting on a delivery of jars so I may reorganise my herb collection (I am so excited for this). I am making changes to keep the flow and energy fresh for when I am able to take one on one appointments again, hold workshops etc.
b) I need to create more of a presence on social media to get the word out on the work I am doing, the services I am offering and the products I create to sell. So I am creating lists of content I can create, mostly for educational purposes through pictures, videos etc. I cannot click my fingers and have it all done now but I have a list that I can go down making them when time permits.
My suggestion is to start with small steps from your action plan, and as they meld into your everyday life, add more steps.
Continue this through to waxing phase of the moon as the energy builds.
Keep note of how the changes are working and how you feel.
Again, your magick may take time, especially if it is altering habits that you have had over a long period of time and as we all know, habits do not change overnight.
I would love you to share with me what magick you are working this new moon. Don't forget to tag me in your social media posts so I can see.
If you need help on how to work your magick, I do have worksheets available in my shop that are certainly a great way to keep track of your magick, and I also offer consults if you would prefer one on one support.
2020 has closed and it is time to jump into this new year with hope and determination to manifest your dreams
I know that things still seem crazy
I know shit is weird
But you have to do this.
You have to take steps to move towards your goals
I realise that we are still amidst a pandemic
I realise that things are strange at the moment with so many changes and restrictions that are in place around the country
But don't let that stop you
We must continue to work towards our future, even if it is a little goal to keep your sanity in check, to help you feel like you are doing something productive and are more in control of your surroundings.
You cannot allow this strange and uncertain time to dim your light and stop you from taking steps forward towards your goal, achieving your dreams and working your magick.
Here I will share with you three things I have done to shift the energy and to help me move into the year with a positive attitude and they could work for you aswell.
Cleanse and purify your space
I created a lovely incense blend today so I could cleanse and purify my house.
As Summer Solstice has passed we have entered the waning part the year, a time to let go and release.
I will cleanse my home a few times this month with this blend to get stuff moving and to ensure my space is clear to hold my new intentions.
So grab whatever you have on hand be it stick incense or loose incense and move around your home concentrating on cleansing and purifying your space
Letting any old and stagnant energy leave the home through your opened windows and doors
Write some short term goals
Most of us have long term goals, which I believe is an important thing to keep us motivated to move forward rather than sit still and stagnate however, speaking from experience sometimes it can seem that you aren’t getting any closer to achieving those goals, especially when they are goals that may take 5 or 10 year to achieve.
So, what do I do?
I get my long term goals and break them down into doable short term goals.
And, if when I break it down and the doable pieces still seems a little big, I break that down again into smaller actionable goals.
By completing smaller goals it is easier to see your progress which in turn adds to the flow and the energy of what you are working towards.
Create a new schedule / plan
When I am making changes in my life, or when I think I am in need of a change of energy I look to how I spend my time.
Much like when you are looking at your diet you may keep a food diary to review, I do something similar with my time.
I note down exactly how I am sending my time so I can reflect on the hours that I may waste or the time that I spend procrastinating so I may make the necessary changes to ensure my time is spent productively.
Then I create a plan...
Let me give you an example of my goal setting and scheduling a plan
I have a goal (12 - 24 month plan) on where I want to be turning this side gig of mentoring into my full time income.
Now to achieve that, I have broken my long term actionable list up into monthly goals.
And, to achieve my monthly goals I have broken it up into weekly actionable lists.
Now let me make it clear, I did not sit down and create a weekly plan for the entire 52 weeks of the year. That is way too intense and I think would be inflexible.
I created four varied plans. Week A, Week B, Week C & Week D and I will rotate them for what would suit that week.
This week, I am on Week A and move onto Week B on Monday and so on for the week after.
By doing that, I am not having to waste any time thinking about or figuring out what I have to do.
Is all done for me, I just have to work my way through the to-do list using my time productively.
This year, I found the perfect diary from Typo and each week it has space where I can set goals noting what is most important to achieve, how I am feeling and a space to share gratitude.
So every Sunday evening I sit down for about an hour to go through what I have achieved that week and to plan my next week, to confirm appointments, to determine the best weekly schedule that would suit the time I have available (Week A, B C or D) and of course to make sure that I have time for me aswell.
By doing this, creating lists and schedules it helps me to feel relaxed, in control, on track and less anxious of what I need to do next because I don't have to remember (or forget lol) as it is written down, I need only look.
It helps to keep my magick surrounding my goals in check, as it is smooth, calm, inspired, excited and in the flow.
It is a reminder that there is magick within the mundane.
I hope these suggestions help you feel more productive and inspired to reach your goals this year.
Can you feel it?
I mean, it is still quite cold here but as the sun is staying out longer and longer each day shining bright and beautiful I feel the stirrings of change and growth deep within me.
I have been spending more time outside in that beautiful sunshine, tending to my small areas of overgrown garden that I tend to neglect in winter and it is beautiful to sink my hands within the earth to soak up some of the grounding energy.
Over the last couple of weeks it has been beautiful to see my lavender, rosemary and other herbs flowering attracting the bees as they move through in the air, floating gently from one flower to the other working their magick.
I feel an awakening within. The seed of creation stirring, ready for my magick to bloom with the energy of Spring.
As we are still right in the middle of a Pandemic I do hope you are well and coping with not knowing what the future will look like but deep down I believe we all know that a shift has happened but perhaps do not yet understand how deep that shift is.
I hope you are able to take time out for yourself, to nurture yourself, to ground and centre, to be kind to yourself and others as this is something none of us have experienced before and it has certainly effected everyone in one way or another.
If you are struggling at the moment be sure to reach out to family and friends and know that you are supported, we are all in this together and it will not last forever. I know we will come out of this with a fresh perspective on how to move forward with our lives.
I have decided to acknowledge this as an opportunity within the chaos.
To realise that I am able to create a new beginning for myself.
No longer do I want to live how I did before, like groundhog day, in the grips of societies expectations and not truly believing that I deserve or can create the big changes that I want within my life.
I have seen that I can and must forge my own path, to let go of the expectations that have been placed upon us by outdated beliefs within this society, the expectations I have placed on myself just trying to fit in, to let go of that part of myself that cares what people think, the self-conscious, fearful, anxious ‘must try to fit into a box’ person that I have become after many many years having to work within a corporate world.
I've had enough.
So, I have decided to study.
I am going to start with a Diploma in Counselling.
My passion has always been to be help people work their magick to manifest their dreams, to be helpful to my community and society, so I have decided that this diploma will be a perfect start.
I already offer magickal consults to help people move forward with creating a life of authenticity by weaving their magick and working with the phases of the moon and the seasons.
I also (before the pandemic put a stop to that) held workshops, womens circles and many other gatherings to encourage, support and share my knowledge.
And after I finish my Diploma as well as the above I will also be able to offer counselling services, which of course those counselling consults will have magick weaving within them.
My workshops and women circles can become more empowering, and I would also be able to volunteer time within my community to help those that cannot afford the help they may need.
I am absolutely excited about this decision.
But to be totally honest I am also a little terrified..
You know that part of you that likes to keep you safe in that cosy little comfort zone you have, well that Niki within me is coming up with a ton of reasons as to why I couldn’t possibly so this.
But I am not letting those reasons seep into my bones, I am hearing them, acknowledging the fear around them and letting them go.
I am lighting my Ancestral Candles. I can feel them beside me supporting my decision. I believe it was them who placed that little idea in my head this week confirming that this is the first step to the change that I have been craving.
I feel this is right
And now that I have said it out loud to you all, there is no turning back right!!
So, I encourage you to ask yourself
What do you want to achieve?
What difference do you want to make in the world?
What steps can you take to get there?
What is holding you back?
And now that you have answered those questions what are you going to do about it?
Well I can tell you what I am going to do !
I will be enrolling next week.
Wish me luck.
How did 2018 treat you?
I can tell you that a lot has happened to me this year, and many of my clients have had a huge year as well.
Many of us feel that we have had the rug pulled out from under us and we have been forced out of our comfort zone, some of us kicking and screaming.
We've been stripped bare
But ready to rise
There is a consensuses that we are all being pushed forward to our authenticity
It is what we all want after all, our wyldest dreams to come true, but also these dreams can be the biggest fear that we have, which plays into our self worth
So the Gods and Ancestors have taken the choice away from many of us, and forced us into the position where we can no longer procrastinate, and have to take action
Because they know our worth, and we just have to trust them, and take the step forward
May people breathe a sigh of relief today, giving themselves permission to start again
Start fresh with the beginning of 2019 with a big Happy New Year!!!
Although it is not technically a witches new year, most of the world celebrates this day, it is the new calendar year, so why not jump on board and ride the energy to create the changes you want to manifest.
However, before you start preparing for the new year it is really important to review
To recognise and acknowledged all that has happened over the last 12 months
To really see what manifested and to be honest with yourself about where you are at and what areas you need to make change
A year goes by so quickly, in the blink of an eye sometimes
We find ourselves on auto pilot as days roll into weeks, that roll into months and before you know it, the year has passed again
This is when we tend to look at ourselves and sometimes think ....... wow ...... I haven't achieved what I wanted to.
If this is you, you’re not alone.
Many people make plans or what we like to call 'New Years Resolutions' and forget about them a week or so in
So this year, do something different.
Make a plan for the new year
An achievable plan and consciously work your magick toward manifesting it
How do you do this?
Firstly, as mentioned previously you need to review your year
Really sit with everything.
To be brutally honest with yourself
You may find it easier working through the reflections of your year month by month.
I suggest you grad a note pad and pen to write it all down
To get it all out
What happened in 2018?
Were there any changes that happened?
Did opportunities present themselves to you that you didn’t take out of fear or you didn’t even see them at all because you were stuck on auto pilot
Did any events occur and looking back you see you could have dealt with it differently?
Did you see things manifest that you intuitively knew was on its way?
Did you connect with your Ancestors for guidance?
What happened throughout the year that you are grateful for?
What magick did you manifest?
Take the time to really review the whole year and sit within the energy
You will see a pattern of what comes easy to you, and what needs a little more work
Review all your actions with love and gratitude. If you have regret, let it go
Sit for a moment and feel energy that resides within you
Farewell the year
Once you feel confident that you have released it is now start planning your year
The below link will take you to a page where you can download your yearly worksheet that will help you outline what it is you would like to achieve this year, and it will help you to break it up into workable parts that you can focus on with each phase of the moon
You can use this worksheet along with the moon phase worksheets that are available on my website (on the same page) or click on the link below to order my Magickal Year 2019 diary that has all worksheets included so you can work your magick throughout the year
Start your New Year Intentions fused with magick and review and plan in a magickal setting
And when I say a magickal setting, it could be as simple as sitting at your kitchen table burning some incense and lighting a candle to start your magickal year, or going to the beach or casting a circle
Whatever feels magickal to you is perfect!
See you all in 2019
Love and Magickal to you all
Without a morning ritual, you are tossing up whether you are going to have a good day or a bad day.
Whether you will invite beautiful energy into your day and hold the power to manifest.
Sounds dramatic I know, but it is true.
I remember the times, before my morning rituals where I would wake up at the last minute, rushing to get dressed and out the door setting myself up for a chaotic and hectic day.
And that is what would mostly manifest.
It used to start my day, as many do, with a loud and obnoxious alarm that jolted me from my serenity, as if it was screaming at me to get up and get out of bed to get dressed, get out into the world to go through the every day motions again, and again, and again.
It was depressing...
Seriously, that is how I felt and I tell you my days would suck!!! I would be sluggish, cranky and feel seriously stuck in an unproductive and negative vibe.
That was many many years ago, but now I have created an amazing morning ritual that totally sets up my day to be productive, positive and magickal.
My morning ritual changes as the flow of my life changes.
Altering with the changes in my life from when my son was a baby relying on me at all moments, now he is an adult who can fend for himself. It changes with the demands of working starting super early in the morning, to starting a little later and at times not working out of the home at all.
That is the beauty of creating and working with your own morning ritual, it is flexible and is what works for you.
You can fine tune it as you need to, adding things and letting things go to make it more suitable for you, whatever stage in your life's cycle you are at so that, most importantly, it totally works for you to get your energy flowing.
I'm not saying that my morning ritual works every time. I am a night owl, not an early bird at all so sometimes I do sleep through my alarms and wake up in a rush because I'm going to be late. (seriously, that has happened a few times, waking up to a phone call saying "Ummmm, Niki, where are you?"), but 99.9% of the time, my mornings are peaceful and the day unfolds amazingly.
So what did I do?
Where did I start?
Firstly, I changed my alarm sound. No longer do I wake up to that obnoxious noise, instead I wake up to beautiful music.
My phone is my alarm, so I have a number of songs on there that go off of a morning. And, as I mentioned, I am a night owl at heart, which in turn makes me a serial alarm snoozer, so I have quite a few alarms that go off but it is beautiful music that gently nudges me from my slumber.
That within itself was a major shift for me. The energy was softer. My mind was clearer and my heart would sing with the music. I woke up with a smile, not a grumble.
The rest of my morning rituals, as I said have changed over time, but this is what I do now.
When I wake up, I put both my feet on the ground and for a moment, just feel my feet solid on the floor. Almost grounding myself back into my body after my night-time adventures. I then stand up, raise my arms to the sky and stretch my body, gently moving and awakening it.
Then, as it is getting colder now, I put on my big fluffy dressing down and make my way into the kitchen and have a big glass of water. I then make a coffee and return to my bed for about 20 minutes and either read or journal.
When I have finished my coffee I get dressed while watching / listening to a YouTube clip. The topic varies each day but is usually spiritual or motivational.
When I am dressed I go out to the kitchen and make myself some breakfast. As it doesn’t really take long for me to get dressed I am usually still listening to the YouTube clip. The breakfast I create depends on the day, and what I am doing but it usually consists of a Smoothie of some sort. My favourite at the moment is a Banana, Mango, Honey and Cacao power with Almond Milk or a mixture of fruit and coconut water. If I don’t feel like a smoothie, it is something as simple as a bowl of muesli with yoghurt and fruit.
Usually with the clip finished but the time I have prepared my breakfast, while I am having breakfast, I sit quietly with a notebook and plan out my day.
What I want to achieve & what are the things I must do today. I also have a section for ideas that I can jot things down if I have received inspiration in my dreams…
This is what I call my "Get shit done" notebook.
Then when I am about to start with my day whether I am working at home our out of home I take a deep breathe and say out loud
"Today will be an amazing day",
"You've go this"
Now you may read this and think, I don't have time for it. Well I am here to tell you that you do and its an important part of your day. My morning ritual honestly takes about an hour each morning. That’s it, from getting up to walking out the door.
There really are no excuses
So now I have told you my morning ritual, I will give you a few tips on how to help you weave this ritual into your life.
Don’t waste another minute and create your morning routine..
I would love for you to share your Morning Ritual on my Facebook page, share with us how you are connecting to flow in the mornings.
Do you have a plethora of things you want to bring into your life, many changes you want to make but feel overwhelmed with them all not knowing where to start?
Believe me, I know how it feels
To manifest my dreams in their entirety, I have sooo many changes I have to and want to make within my life.
But here is the thing, this is how my mind used to work.
When I recognised I needed to make changes I delved into researching them. I found myself recognising the more I researched a subject to learn how to make the changes, the more I realised I don’t actually know which made me want to deepen my knowledge on the subject before I even thought of making any changes….
Welcome to my mind, it can be quite intense.
My mind doesn’t spin around like that much anymore, but I am far from perfect.
I do sometimes get to the point where I feel yes, I am going to do that, and I realise that I just don’t know where to start, so I don’t. I come to a stand still…. Stagnant…. and I find myself feeling that anxiety rising.
I recently turned 40 and looking back over the past 10 years I recognised I have spent a lot of time procrastinating. Well, no that is a little harsh. I have spent a lot of time building my foundations both emotionally, spiritually and psychically, but yes, I have also done a hell of a lot of procrastination.
I recognise that I have spent a lot of time in the “I want to do this” space.
Don’t get me wrong, I have implemented a lot of things within my life that I have wanted to do, but upon reflection, I could have done more because my mindset sometimes jumps back into the spin I mentioned before.
But that’s ok.
I haven’t spent much time in the ‘I should have’ or ‘I could have’ space, I can now move to the ‘I can’ and ‘I will’ space within my mind quite quickly releasing the thought of ‘oh what’s the point I have so much to learn’, I just begin with baby steps if I am unsure or believe I am not knowledgeable enough on the subject, taking the learn as I go approach.
And what I mean by that is? Here are some examples.
I wanted to create a chemical free environment within my home by making my own cleaning products, personal products etc, but when I actually looked at everything I used within my home I felt overwhelmed at the thoughts of getting rid of it all and making everything myself.
So I started one by one replacing the products we used within the home.
I started with the washing powder, the moving onto other cleaning products, then started on personal products. That way I didn’t feel so overwhelmed, I just let the new habits create their space within my life.
I am not totally chemically free, but I continue to work towards that goal.
Another example which does tie in with the above is that I have dreams of living as self sufficient and environmentally sustainable as possible.
I recently attended a screening of a documentary on sustainability and as you can imagine that involves a lot of new skills that need to be learned and I was sitting within the theatre starting to feel a little overwhelmed again thinking omgoodness how am I going to do this. Again, the more I research the more I realise I don’t know about it.
But, many quotes from people within the documentary who are living sustainably were, just start. Do something, start small, and grow and learn from there.
At the moment I rent the home in which I live, so I cannot make major changes to the house, but I can work outside within the garden to create a beautiful environment, and that is what I am doing. Working on growing what I can for myself and also creating a space for wildlife to dwell.
I am finding growing my own food a little challenging. I am great with indoor plants, but tend to get ‘busy’ and forget to show my outdoor garden some loving, so I am still creating that habit within my life and I refuse to give up as I am learning along the way.
So my point to this post is, if you are feeling overwhelmed…. Don’t.
Yes, the changes you want to make within your life can be huge, but the hardest thing can be taking that first step and making that first little change in your habits.
It is remembering that you never fail (like is one of my plants die). It is an opportunity for learning, to know what you will do different next time.
Like the butterfly effect, that little step can ripple out to the universe to affirm YES! you want this, and then the universe will align and assist you.
Your next step will be easier, and then the next and the next.
And before you know it, you will see the changes you are making for the better.
My suggestion is to monitor your journey by keeping a journal. Write down how good it feels while you are working on implanting the changes, how beneficial they have become and how it is making you feel that your authenticity is shining that much brighter, how you are making a difference within your world.
I find that this helps, as the next time you are feeling overwhelmed, on the brink of giving up, you need only to read your journal so see how amazing you are and that little bit of light can help to give you that motivation to take that next step.
I don’t spend much time scrolling through my Facebook feed, but when I do, I want to see things that will inspire me, will make me smile, will challenge my thinking and encourage me to walk my authentic path.
It is important within this information age with so many social media platforms to be particular to what you expose yourself to, what it is you are allowing into your consciousness and energy field. When you are working on manifesting and living your beautiful authentic life, you do not want to bring your energy down by watching mind numbing, negative and ridiculous posts.
Before I made changes to my Facebook feed I would have to scroll through many mind numbing posts to find a post that caught my attention.
I have friends that have stopped using Facebook completely, but I cannot do that as I have a business page, so if I am going to continue to participate in this Social Media Platform, I decided to clean up my feed.
It can take a while for the initial clean up if you want to it in one sitting, however you can clean it up a little each time you go on, and before you know it you will have an inspiring feed.
So how do you do it?
Here are five ways in which you can clean up your feed.
If you have a friend that always shares posts that you do not like, or you are sick of reading their every movement, just unfollow them. You are still friends with them, you just will not see what they post and they will have no idea you have done this so there will be no dramas.
If you do not want to unfollow your friend because you want to see their personal posts, but they share things from certain pages you do not like, on the post if you click on the three dots at the top right, you can choose to hide all from ‘name of the page’. That way, when your friend shares it, it will not appear on your feed.
Go through your liked pages. You will be surprised how many pages you have actually connected with and liked over the years. By liking so many pages, it is hard for Facebook to know which posts to show you, so you will probably see less of the pages you love. So if you no longer resonate with what a certain page is about and what it shares, unlike the page. You will find that after you go through and unlike pages, you will start seeing more of your favourites within your feed.
When you see sponsored posts on your Facebook feed and you don’t like the vibe of the page that is advertising, click on the little dots to the right and choose what action you would like to take, like the option to ‘hide add, see fewer adds like this’. This can really make a difference in your feed.
You can change the setting for your friends Facebook Page and the Pages you have liked to see them first. You can even set it to received notifications. That way you won’t miss a thing and instead of having to scroll through your facebook feed, you can go directly to this.
By doing this you can transform your Facebook feed into a place of inspiring videos, beautiful quotes, photos of friends and posts that will lift you up, make your heart sing and to help you manifest your dreams.
When you realise you have lost touch of your authenticity, it can be quite overwhelming to get your head around where to start to awaken your inner self. There may be so much that you wish to change, and you just don’t know where to start so here are a few steps to help you with that.
Don’t let yourself slide into a panic state of feeling overwhelmed. That energy will not get you anywhere. Try shift your focus to being grateful that you have removed the blindfold and can now clearly see that you need to make some changes in your life. Be thankful that you have recognised that you lost a part of yourself and be excited about the journey to come with the unfolding of you.
You cannot move forward attracting that beautiful energy which is you if you hold onto fear, panic or sadness. Acknowledge those feelings when they arise, but let them pass by, let them flow through and out of you and hold onto that feeling of gratitude.
Secondly Write it down
Get clear on what it is you feel is your authenticity, and I mean get specific
Where do you want to live?
Closer to the water? Close to the bush? Would you like a little bit of land or an apartment? And would that place be in another suburb?, another state?, or another country? Or exactly where you are? Is it the house you already reside and you only want to shift the energy within and around it.
How do you want to live?
Do you want to live simply? Do you want to be self sufficient? Do you want to travel? Do you want to get really good at cooking great nutritious food? Or do you want to be able to eat out every night at beautiful restaurants?
Do you want to go out more often? Or would you like more time to yourself?
What do you want to do for a living?
Do you want to work for your community? Do you want work somewhere that lets your creativity flow? Do you want to work in an environment with less pressure so you can focus on your hobbies? Or do you want to create your business from your hobbies? Do you want to make a huge change and delve into another career choice?
What does your authentic self do?
Do you spend more time in the garden? Go for midnight swims? Dance like no ones watching? Play a musical Instrument? Paint? Volunteer in your community? Make your own clothing? Create natural product? Get out more with your friends? Go see live music? Take a drumming class?
What does your authentic self look like?
Have you always wanted to have a little pixie cut? Have you always wanted long hair? Have you always wanted pink hair? What about dreadlocks?
You get where I am going here don’t you?
Get clear on how you see yourself living within your life. By being clear you know what you are working towards it is easier to manifest this energy as you can create a plan of action to get there.
The sky is the limit here. No limitations. Write this list as if there were no restrictions such as money, time or space.
Thirdly, Baby Steps
You don’t have to make all the changes needed at this very minute. That will make you feel overwhelmed. Throwing yourself into the deep end can be scary as hell, and make you return and retreat into your unauthenticity due to fear. So make little changes within your life. Begin to say no to the things that do not align with your authenticity, and say yes to the things that do.
If you are wanting to change your career, look into courses.
If you want to move, start looking and saving.
If you want to make changes within your self, start now.
You have to create a plan on how you are going to achieve these changes.
With change brings fresh energy, sifting through to old and welcoming the new.
Manifesting your authentic life takes action!
Lastly, work with the energy
Start working with attracting the energy to make the changes within your life, and releasing the energy that is no longer needed. You can do this by working with the energy of the phases of the moon, releasing in the waning phase and attracting in the waxing phase. You can use my worksheets free to download (click here). Using the worksheets you can keep track on your journey and make the necessary changes to re-discover your authenticity.
I want you to remember that everything you desire is achievable.
It can be hard work getting within that flow, working with the energy of manifestation, manoeuvring yourself around obstacles that pop up, understanding the lesson behind them and keeping on track with your end goal but know….
With focus you will find yourself within the flow where opportunities will present themselves to help you manifest your authenticness.
Within this busy society we can find that we lose ourselves within the day to day lives that we have created.
Then you reach a point and think ‘who am I?’ or “what is this life I have created?’.
We spend so much time running around, our minds full of to-do lists and scrolling through social media platforms that it is no wonder we find that we have lost ourselves.
We can unconsciously make decisions within our lives that we think are the right ones to make because that is what society says is right or safe or what you should be doing, and with each decision some of us walk further and further away from our authentic selves.
We need to take the time out to reconnect with ourselves and the energy that surrounds us.
We need to recognise what is right for us as individuals and what is right for the collective consciousness and let go of the pressures of society’s expectations on what your life should look like.
That my friend is where you find your authenticity.
Here are some tips on how to do that.
Pour your heart onto the pages.
Delve into the deepest parts of yourself, express your inner desires and thoughts.
Tap into that beautiful soul of yours.
By doing so you can unlock the door and remember your true self
You can find the hidden treasures within yourself, that divine spark that is you, and begin to recognise how you can piece together your authenticity.
Don’t know where to start or what to write?
Don’t stress. The important thing is that you just start writing about anything.
I promise you, you will be amazed at what ends up on the paper.
By being open and honest with yourself you will find yourself.
Meditation is a powerful tool to work in many areas of your life.
If you don’t find it easy to just sit in silence meditating, even with music or chanting playing, you may find guided meditations are the way to go.
There are many guided meditations out there (I find heaps on YouTube) that you can use everyday within your life. You can find ones to cleanse your chakras, change your throught patterns, strengthen your intuition, meditations to heal, morning meditations to set your day etc.
Meditation is a perfect way in which you can quieten your mind and tap into your intuition and let your inner you shine through. It will help relieve stress that is within your life before it creates blockages which can lead to illness.
Get into Nature
With our busy lives we forget to just get outside and soak up the energy of our earth mother.
We have fallen out of her rhythm, forgotten to hear her music.
Go to a place in nature that you connect with whether that be a park, the beach, the forest, by a lake or even your own back yard.
Find a space, sit, listen and watch.
Let your feet touch the earth to ground your energy.
Hear the sounds of our earth mother
Let her energy move through you
You will connect to your inner flow, which in turn awakens your authenticity
Creativity means different things to different people.
Whether it is drawing, painting, dancing, gardening, cooking, sewing etc, being creative allows you to access an area of your brain that we don’t always get to tap into.
It helps you to get out of the mundane mind and access your intuition.
It can also put you into a meditative / trance state.
So get out some paints or get out some pencils and create.
Put some music on and dance, let the music move through you
Get into your kitchen and cook up a storm
So what ever it is you do to get your creative juices flowing
Find your Tribe
It is so important that you surround yourself with people of like mind.
People that help you to look within, to push you out of your comfort zone.
People you can have in depth conversations with who will understand, or atleast try to understand your thoughts and feelings.
People who you can learn from.
People that see your true self and will raise you up and support you on your journey of authenticity.
If you have already found your tribe, cherish them.
Talk to them about your journey of finding your authenticity. Start the conversation as you may find that some within your tribe feel the same way and you can support each other.
If you do not have a tribe, find them.
Join groups, attend meeting and workshops, get yourself out there to meet new people and make the connections.
Perhaps within your mediations, focus on connecting with the energy of finding your tribe.
You will find that by taking the time to do the above tips, you will begin to get into the flow of your life.
You will begin swimming with the stream of your life, and not against it.
By connecting to that energy, you will find that things will happen.
You will find yourself in situations, circumstances, and events to aid with the connection of your tribe.